There are times when pain becomes incurable and also unbearable. Danielle Kane was one of the 13 wounded victims of Toronto mass shooting tagged the Danforth shooting, exactly one year ago today.
She came face to face with the shooter whose bullet tore through her stomach and diaphragm before shattering her T11 vertebra. Asked to describe her pain, Danielle said: “It’s like an intense pins-and-needles feeling from my waist down. It’s quite all encompassing. Like half your body is trapped in concrete.”
For Danielle and many others in similar situation, life will never be the same again. That pain has left a permanent mark on her life. I watched her interview with a teary eye. I could only say a prayer for her. For some, their pain came not from shooting but from emotional and physical abuse that has wounded their body and damaged their soul. Others have been traumatized beyond words could describe.
How do you cope when you have to live with pain? How do you manage a terrible and incurable pain? Let me admit that there are no easy answers, but one thing I picked from Danielle as I watched her interview last night is her thought on the shooter, Faisal (By the way, he died of a self-inflicted shot to the head after a gunfight with police).
Danielle is so full of compassion for the guy. In her words, “Faisal clearly had these issues for a long time and he fell through the cracks. The investigation showed just how long he had been dealing with mental health issues and clearly he needed help and he didn’t get it.”
Wow! That was a turning point for me in the entire interview. It’s like flipping the whole thing over. Danielle is now paraplegic and may never be able to walk again except a miracle happens. But she would not allow anyone, not even the shooter, to complicate her already bad case. She refused to add the emotional burden of her tormentor to an already traumatized body and soul.
Friend, nobody may understand how heavy the pain you bear but one way to lessen it is to let your offender go. After raising Lazarus from dead, he was still wrapped and bound up in grave clothes. Your offender may be alive and walking freely but they are bound, emotionally at least. You need to loose them and let them go.
When you refuse to let go, they will drag you into the grave with them. They will complicate your life and mess up your future. But when you release them, you free yourself from their stranglehold. Someone said when you finally forgive and let go, you will realize that you’re the one in bondage all along.
Please pause and say a prayer for Danielle and other victims of Danforth Shooting today. It’s a great week for you!