Breaking Down Hostility

Sometimes, the road to emotional and physical healing is through restoring broken relationship. Not all sicknesses are caused by infection or disease; some are psychological in nature.

We face disappointment, disaffection and disagreement in relationship, and if we don’t take immediate action toward restoration, things could degenerate, and one outcome of that is emotional trauma.

As imperfect people, conflicts are bound to happen. We’d do or say something that would be misunderstood or misconstrued; not necessarily intentional but could be by mistake or just total misunderstanding.

What do we do in that situation? The only way to keep the disease from festering is to expose it. Conflict thrives in darkness; when it is not talked about. And so two partners living in the same house, sleeping on the same bed, refuse to talk to each other and then say nothing about it. The Lord offered us a way out in Matthew 18:15:

And if your brother does wrong to you, go, make clear to him his error between you and him in private: if he gives ear to you, you have got your brother back again.

If we’d pay attention to this simple instruction, it could solve a lot of problem in our relationship. If one of the partners in a conflict will take the courage to make this move, so many other evils and dangers will be averted.

So why don’t we do it? Why don’t we want to put an end to hostility? The answer is simple: Ego! We tend to think that such will be interpreted as cowardly; that we’re weak especially if you’ve done it a few times.

Making a move toward peace is not a sign of weakness but rather of strength. It takes meekness to do this. Meekness is not weakness but strength under control. Only the courageous can make such moves. So if you’re the one that always move the motion for resolution, congratulations. You’re the wise one, the strong one!

Friend, there’s no price too much to pay for peace. Even the scripture admonishes: “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone” (Romans 12:18). Wow! Is there a step you can take today, right now, toward peace? Is there someone you need to reach out to? Is there a hostility you can put an end to right now?

Can I encourage you: Go ahead and make that move! Move toward resolution. Move toward reconciliation. Move toward healing.