There are so many things we don’t have control over in life. Take the weather for example; If some of us have the power, we would love to regulate how cold it gets in Winter. But unfortunately, we don’t have that kind of power.
However, and this is the good news: We can choose how we respond to the weather. I can bundle up and shut out the cold completely. I can decide to heat up my house and turn it into a furnace. Yes, there are many things we can’t control, but we can control what gets to us.
Martin Luther once said that: “You cannot keep birds from flying over your head, but you can keep them from building a nest in your hair.” I think instead of complaining and getting angry over what we can never change, we should rather focus our attention on changing what we have control over—our attitude.
Viktor Emil Frankl, a psychiatrist and a Holocaust survivor, gave an insight into what helped him through the death camps of Nazi Germany where he lost his entire family except his sister. He also suffered many indignities; not sure of what was going to happen to him next. But one day he made a discovery: His captors could take everything from him and even put his body in captivity but there’s something they couldn’t touch or take. He called it the last of the human freedoms.
“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”
Friend don’t let anyone make you feel miserable. Don’t let others make you feel that they have total control over you; that you have nothing left; that you’re at their mercy. No! Don’t give anyone that power. You can always determine how you respond in any given situation. No one can make you feel inferior without your permission.
You don’t have to return hate for hate; blow for blow or curse for curse. No! Gandhi said: An eye for eye makes the whole world blind. Jesus even went further when he said: “Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.” You’ve got the power. Use it wisely!